"Absence makes the heart grow fonder"... How much sense does this quote really make? Does being away from your loved one for extended periods of time really help your relationship in the long run, or does there need to be daily contact for that spark to last? Many people can debate on this issue. In the end, if you really love the person, of course you will do anything to make the relationship last. The real issue is if you want to put in the effort to make the relationship work or not.
You ask what effort is required to make a long distance relationship work. Communication, without a doubt is the number one issue most long-distance, LD, couples face. You have to learn how to have an intimate conversation without being physically infront of your partner. Skype and other technology is a very popular tool that most couples use to create the feeling of being closer. This allows for non-verbal expressions, body language, to be expressed.
How often should you communicate? This is different for every couple. However, talking to your partner for a half hour or so every night should be enough. It really just depends on how comfortable you are with the relationship and your own personal preferences. Creating a daily routine is always best so that you can be secure and rely on each other. It also helps you to plan your day around that very important phone call!
(Also, writing letters is a cute and romantic way to stay in touch. Written communication can be kept and treasured.) Okay, so besides communication what can keep your relationship steadfast and strong?
Happiness, which seems like common sense, is actually the second most important factor of keeping a long term relationship. Your happiness and optimism will show in everything you do and will also reflect in your partner. If you and your partner are happy individuals, feelings of uneasiness will subside, and you can further build upon your relationship.
These two aspects are extremely important to keep a relationship. Sadly, happiness and optimism, as great as they seem, still do not keep your relationship perfect. Fights will occur. However, if you understand how to handle them, they can be dealt with without being dragged out for days, or weeks.
First of all, know that it’s okay to fight. It’s unhealthy to keep you feelings in. Dealing with your issues will make you both grow closer together. One important thing to keep in mind is that you might say things over the phone that you would not say in person, so it’s a good idea talk your issues out over a web cam. Also, don’t bring up past issues, be fair and talk about the current issue. Bringing up issues from the past always cause further problems. Be mature and get to the core root of the problem, so it can be fixed without ongoing tension and resentment.
On a final note, have fun! Having a social life outside of your relationship is a must. Do not put your life on hold because your partner is not with you, and definitely don’t feel bad about going out with your friends. As long as you are true and uphold your promises to the relationship, there should be no need for a feeling of isolation from your daily life. It will actually make your relationship better because a happier you will vastly improve the happiness of your partner.
So remember, be optimistic about the future, communicate on a daily basis, and enjoy yourself! Any couple can make their relationship last, even while hundreds of miles apart from one another.
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